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She and He Heart Mondays: Personal Wedding Websites

Posted August 23, 2010 in Advice, Guests, Weddings, Wedding Planning. See View Comments.

Let’s be serious. Nobody hearts Mondays. So every Monday we are here to lighten the mood and talk about things we do heart: Couples creating personal wedding websites

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Have you created your own wedding website yet? If you’re wondering what the point is, we’re here to tell you! If you thought they were lame, think again. There are so many reasons to create a wedding website. Guests will be given the URL that you have created. Example: www.TheJackson-AndersonCouple.com. Once guests get to the website they will be asked for a password that you created.

So what can guests do on this website of yours?
1. RSVP to your wedding
2. See any photos or videos that you have posted as a couple (great for posting engagement shoot photos)
3. Download maps or itineraries needed for the wedding
4. Take quizzes or polls that you have created
5. See a schedule of events
6. Update their addresses and contact information

This will make your life easier as a wedding planner or as a couple planning an upcoming wedding. You can even choose your domain name, song, style and color. This website can exist as long as you want it to and therefore be a great online memory of your wedding. The website is a great supplementary way to involve your guests and organize your wedding plans. Creating a website will cut down on info in your invitations. Nobody wants ten pages of wedding info and instructions in the mail.

Our only word of advice is to not solely rely on this website and always have another means of communicating with your guests. Reasons being, not all guests are tech savvy or have the internet and not all guests check the website regularly for updates or invitations. Also in today’s age, nothing beats receiving hard copy snail mail addressed to your name with neat lacy writing! -It’s so rare!

To create your own wedding website or just see what the hype is about, go to:

www.ewedding.com, www.momentville.com or www.wedquarters.com.

www.ewedding.com

She and He Heart Mondays: Extraordinary Escort Cards

Posted August 16, 2010 in Advice, Brides, Bridal Fashion, Decor, Pictures, Trends. See View Comments.

Let’s be serious. Nobody hearts Mondays. So every Monday we are here to lighten the mood and talk about things we do heart:  Extraordinary Escort Cards

I can’t think of anything more boring than a blank piece of paper with a name on it. Escort cards shouldn’t be dull or overlooked. There are so many ways to create escort cards that not only add a personal touch to your wedding but also impress guests with your creativity and thoughtfulness.

She Says: This is another one of those great little ways to make the wedding all about you as a unique couple.

Guests love little details like this. They will take photos of the cards, talk about them and in some cases cherish them! For example, the little candles below serve as escort cards and wedding favors.

So what’s the difference between escort cards and place cards?

Escort cards tell guests at what table they should sit at.

Place cards are at the table and tell guests in what seat they should sit.

Some important tips for creating escort cards:

1. With a large amount of guests, avoid tying the cards to trees like the photo on the bottom left. It will take forever before guests find their card.

2. Try organizing the escort cards in alphabetical order rather than table numbers to make the process quicker. If the cards are tied to items, line up the items so guests don’t have to search.

3. Don’t have loose leaf escort cards at outdoor weddings (even on a sunny calm day). The wind could sweep them off in a second. Hold them in place with faux diamonds, river rocks or ribbon.

4. Keep them consistent. If you write Mr./Mrs. on one card, continue to do this on all of the others.

5. Depending on what your escort card is, decide whether you want to give one out per person or per couple or per family.

Photos Left to Right, Top to Bottom: www.theknot.com, www.josevillaphoto.com, www.theknot.com, www.elizabethannedesigns.com, www.diyweddingprojects.com, www.LIWeddings.com, www.lisalefkowitz.com, www.papertastebuds.com, www.countryliving.com

She and He Heart Mondays: Kisses!-10 Unconventional ways to get newlyweds to kiss at the reception

Posted August 09, 2010 in Advice, Couples, Guests, Reception. See View Comments.

Let’s be serious. Nobody hearts Mondays. So every Monday we are here to lighten the mood and talk about things we do heart:  Kisses! 10 Unconventional ways to get newlyweds to kiss at the reception

Dog photo: www.flickr.com Children photos www.flickr.com Lip photo www.flickr.com Couple kissing, middle top www.perspectiveye.com Other couples kissing www.stylemepretty.com

Cling, cling, cling, cling, cling! Sound familiar at weddings? Of course! Everyone wants to see the newlyweds kiss. We posted some unconventional ways to get the bride and groom to pucker up on the wedding day!

  1. Set up a mini putt golf course near the head table (1 Hole). Guests must get a hole in one to get the bride and groom to kiss.
  2. Set up a balloon at each table. Inside each one is a piece of paper with a question on it. “Where was the couple’s first kiss?” A guest must pop the balloon and answer the question. If the guest can answer the question the newlyweds kiss.
  3. Guests give kissing lessons! A guest goes up to the podium and kisses his or her date in order to “demonstrate” to the bride and groom how to do it.
  4. Choose a charity on behalf of the bride and groom. If any guests want the newlyweds to pucker up, they must first give a donation.
  5. Bring a hula hoop to the reception. Guests must hula for 20 seconds to make the newlyweds kiss. (The photos will be hilarious!)
  6. Name that tune. If the guest guesses the tune the couple kisses. If they get it wrong they have to kiss somebody.
  7. Decorate a bean bag for the bride and groom. Have a cut out hole where it must be thrown into. If the guest gets it in, the couple must kiss. You can also use Loonies or Toonies to do this and donate the money to a charity.
  8. At a beach themed wedding the guest must blow on a conch shell horn for the bride and groom to kiss.
  9. Play truth or kiss. A guest will come up to the podium and ask the newlyweds a question. They can kiss or answer it!
  10. Get a container full of wine corks. Some used with wine on the ends and some new ones. Mark one or two corks black. If guests pick a red one that is used, the bride and groom kiss. If a new one is chosen the guest must kiss someone. If the black marked one is chosen ALL guests must kiss his or her date.

She and He Video Thursdays: Ciara and Simon broadcast from San Diego

Posted August 05, 2010 in Advice, Recommends, She & He TV. See View Comments.

Follow the fabulous lives of the Firefly team, see our client’s testimonials and take a sneak peak at our events, weddings and any other special events.

Ciara and Simon Daykin talk about their favorite weddings that are far from cookie cutter. Everything from reversed wedding ceremonies to revealing a nightclub at the wedding reception! Check out the part 1 and 2 videos posted below.

She and He Heart Mondays: White Dress Photography in Calgary, AB!

Posted July 26, 2010 in Advice, Recommends. See View Comments.

Let’s be serious. Nobody hearts Mondays. So every Monday we are here to lighten the mood and talk about things we do heart: White Dress Photography in Calgary, AB.

www.whitedressphotography.com

As event planners we realize that photography at your wedding is super important. You will spend hours picking out flowers, hand picking little details, deciding on colors, arranging guests and discussing decor. After all of this hard work you should be able to look back at the photos taken and see how much fun your guests had, how great your decor looked, and of course how beautiful your dress was! (After all, you only get to wear it once!) This is why investing in a good photographer is key! –Trust us.

We’ve had quite the history with the talented photographers, Natalie and Teila, and we wanted to give them a shout out this Monday! They have worked together with us for many weddings.  In fact, some of their work  is featured in the 2010 Calgary Bride Magazine! Check out the photos below to see a wedding that we worked on together at the beginning of the month.

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She Chose:



He Chose:

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To see more photos of weddings and engagements go to the White Dress Photography website: www.whitedressphotography.com and visit their new blog at www.whitedressblog.com. You can also follow Teila on Twitter @TeilaWhiteDress
White Dress is based in Calgary but also has experience shooting in the Rockies. (–Nat and Teila also do amazing engagement shoots.)

Note to all couples out there looking for a photographer: We really enjoy working with White Dress and we’re sure you will too! Not only do these ladies know about current looks and trends but they love what they do and it’s pretty obvious to see that from their work. See for yourselves. :)

She and He Inspire You Saturday: A Touch Of Pink

Posted July 24, 2010 in Advice, Brides, Bridal Fashion, Decor, Pictures. See View Comments.

Photos found at www.stylemepretty.com

This Saturday Firefly Occasions decided to come up with a little inspiration for anyone out there planning an upcoming wedding. We chose to do an inspiration board centered around a “touch of pink.” Whether you choose to wear pink shoes, decorate with pink flowers or even have pink backdrop lighting, we think it’s a very romantic yet stylish color theme! WARNING: Pink is one of those colors that is easily over done. –Note we said “touch” of pink. :) Our favorite shades are salmon and hot pink!

Inspiration boards are an elegant way to jumble all of your wedding ideas together to see how they look as a whole. It’s also a trendy way to showcase your wedding ideas to your friends and family and even inspire other brides! Are you interested in making an inspiration board too? Go to www.bridalcanvas.com.

We challenge you to inspire us! Send us your best inspiration board at info@fireflyoccasions.com and we will credit you with a feature on our blog! For more examples of inspiration boards go to www.stylemepretty.com or scroll down and check out Kendra’s blog on “A Wedding Planners Wedding!”

Happy Saturday! – Firefly Occasions

She and He Fridays: A Wedding Planner’s Wedding

Posted July 23, 2010 in Advice, Brides, Bridal Fashion, Brides, Cake, Decor, Pictures, Weddings, Wedding Planning, Weddings. See View Comments.

My name’s Kendra Scott, I’m the Wedding’s Division Manager at Firefly Occasions and as of December 19th, I now have my own wedding to plan! Every Friday I write a feature article where I document my personal wedding planning journey each step of the way.

Cupcakes, Candy Bar, Wedding Cake, Sundae Bar, there are sooooo many options! Probably my current favourite is the Sundae Bar we posted earlier this week on the blog:). However, I can’t have it all and my unhealthy obsession with Crave Cupcakes has taken over. The majority of my guests are travelling from Ontario and though they have their own cupcake shoppes there, I know many are looking forward to tasting these little mouth-fulls of joy that I won’t stop talking about :) . We’ve decided to go with a sweet table of mini cupcakes, macaroons and a 6” cake. This week I came across so many cute options for cake toppers and I’m really excited for the topper we’ve selected. I didn’t want a traditional Husband and Wife cake topper and I wasn’t sure what I did want. Luckily, Etsy.com never fails and I found an abundance of great ideas! I really liked the “Love” topper and custom colours were an option which is wonderful. However, I really fell in love with this sugar rose. I can’t believe the talent some people have. Can you believe this is made from sugar!? I’m curious to see how it’s shipped? Hopefully it’s not in little pieces when it arrives. They do say though that they won’t ship to Canada….minor detail haha that’s not stopping me.
Now that we’re within our six month mark to the wedding we can finally arrange a meeting for our cupcakes and cake… one of the only aspects my fiance has any interest in. :)


She and He Heart Mondays: Ice-cream Sundae Buffets

Posted July 19, 2010 in Advice, Cake, Decor, Guests, Recommends. See View Comments.

Let’s be serious. Nobody hearts Mondays. So every Monday we are here to lighten the mood and talk about things we do heart: Ice-cream sundae buffets.

She hearts the idea of anything unique and far from cookie cutter!

He hearts the thrill of being able to customize an ice cream Sundae.

Having an ice cream buffet for a wedding on a hot summer day is a unique and fabulous idea. Guests can choose their own flavor and sugary, colorful toppings. If you have an outdoor reception, this will be a great way to cool off your guests, entertain children and keep people talking about your exceptional, vibrant and entertaining ice cream buffet.

Having a buffet is also a great opportunity for you to incorporate your wedding colors, theme and decor.

Photos found at www.eatdrinkchic.com

She suggests: Light pastel colors such as salmon pink or mint green and cream.

He suggests: Having someone serve the ice cream to avoid a mess and ensure the buffet line moves along quickly. This is especially important if you have a large attendance at your reception. Bon Appetite!

She and He Friday’s: A Wedding Planner’s Wedding

Posted July 16, 2010 in Advice, Brides, Bridal Fashion, Brides, Dress, Trends. See View Comments.

My name’s Kendra Scott, I’m the Wedding’s Division Manager at Firefly Occasions and as of December 19th, I now have my own wedding to plan! Every Friday I write a feature article where I document my personal wedding planning journey each step of the way.

We’ve all seen the movie 27 Dresses and heard of horror stories about awful bridesmaid dresses. I think that most Brides are actually quite concerned about finding bridesmaid dresses that are stylish and flattering. Most brides want their bridesmaids to look good.

I thought that I was being super easy going when it comes to bridesmaid dresses. I have stylish bridesmaids and I trust their judgements. I wasn’t concerned about them being in the same dress or even the same colour. I just sent them a bunch of approved colours and told them to find a dress, any dress, they liked.  Well, that went out the window. :)

It turns out that this causes more concern then it needs to. My bridesmaids are also super easy to deal with so we’ve ended up with a bunch of conversations with me saying “Just find a dress you like” followed with them saying “Oh we’ll wear whatever you want.” Seriously, someone just needs to be a little selfish here; this has gone on for six months haha.  So the lesson for me was that its way easier for everyone if I just pick the dresses. Besides, they don’t seem to mind!

And so the search begins. My bridesmaids and I each live in a different province, Alberta, Ontario and Quebec.  So I needed to make sure that I picked dresses that could be ordered from or picked up in their locations. I still wanted to offer different styles and I wanted them to have the final choice. We are all our own worst critics and they will feel more comfortable if they’ve picked what they like best.

So here they are….. the three choices. I went with floor length, Grecian style, pale pink chiffon dresses. Luckily I’ve seen them both in strapless shirts before so a strapless style wasn’t a concern.  I’ve heard back from my maid of honour already with her selection.  The dresses will be ordered before the end of the month and then one more thing can be crossed off of my list! :)

She and He Trendy Tuesdays

Posted June 15, 2010 in Accessories, Advice, Brides, Bridal Fashion, Brides, Couples, Dress, Grooms, Recommends. See View Comments.

She and He introduce a weekly cutting edge style combo for him and her. We introduce to you, the latest styles from down under. In Australia every season is wedding season considering the temperature is rarely in the negatives, never mind all you poor Calgarian brides who put up with four feet of snow…. in May! This week we are featuring Australian couple, Emily and Josh. Their looks are simple, natural and beautiful. Need we say more?

Photos from www.blumenthalphotography.com.au

To get Emily’s natural beauty look, accessorize with a hand made hair flower for your locks. We discovered a great example on www.etsy.com.

He Says: Don’t Be THAT Guy At Your Own Wedding

Posted May 14, 2010 in Advice, Grooms, Weddings. See View Comments.

By Simon Daykin

A while ago I wrote about dealing with THAT guy at your wedding. I got quite the response so I thought I’d go one more mile down the road and address how you, the Groom can avoid being THAT guy at your own wedding. Trust me, it happens. There are plenty of reasons for this occurrence. They range from nerves, lack of eating, mixing boozes to good old hard partying and lack of control. I’ll hit a few here, the usual suspects but I can’t get into some of the deeper, crazier reasons, coz that’s between you and your shrink! You DO NOT want to look like this guy at your own wedding…do you??? Of course you don’t!

Eat It! Just Eat It!

Each one of us has joked, at one point or another about getting a good base before a night of drinking. Well as far as I’m concerned, there is truth to that. Food in the belly makes sure the alcohol takes longer to get into your blood stream. Making the wine make its way through a 16oz steak will help you. But this is not just a night…oh no…this is a FULL DAY! So make sure you eat, eat whenever possible, whatever possible. Eat a good, solid, manly man breakfast, then eat lunch, solid proteins and the like. From the ceremony to the cocktails there is a long time…so I suggest bringing food along. ; I’m not saying that you pull out a hero sandwich just before you say “I do”. But have the photographer bring along some food for the photo shoot or stick a sandwich in your pocket. Keep the food coming whenever you can and try not to get hungry.

Go To Bed Early…And SLEEP

This is not directed at your wedding night…oh no…this is directed at the night BEFORE your wedding night. Never make this night your stag night! There is no reason to go out and get all “Jersey Shored” the night before your wedding. You’ll only regret it later.

Use this night to have a great dinner, either with your Bride to be, your family or all your guests. When they start to drink it all up, you make your exit. They may rib you, but they will understand. In all honesty, I would have a quiet dinner with your Bride to be, and your families. Keep it an early night. And if it’s all family, no one will try to pour shots down your throat. Head to bed early, go over your vows and your speech to make sure all your I’s are crossed and your T’s be dotted, then go to sleep. You’ll need your rest for the coming day. Trust me on this, falling asleep, or even WORSE…passing out at your wedd ing is not on!

Consumption

Usually there will be some booze at the wedding, and mostly there will be a lot of the stuff. Doesn’t mean you have to drink it all though. Remember to pace oneself…patience is a virtue. So be patient boys. If you want to drink, then have a drink…no need to go double fisted. Remember you need to be able to last the night and “then some”. Yes I do mean the wedding night. If you drink away your “performance” then I can’t help you. But I can help you before this happens. So slow down, and not only will you be able to give a ROCKSTAR performance on your wedding night but you’ll look better in all your photos and you won’t be tossing back you dinner on your guests or slurring your speech.&nb sp; The speech you spent so long working on. There is plenty of time to have a few too many…your wedding day is not one of these times!

Simon’s Gutsy Groom Advice

Most, if not all of the guys I know love to head out and “tie one on”…myself included. But let’s be honest here. Your wedding is not the time to do this. You have asked a bunch of your closest friends and family to join you in a celebration with your families and your future wife. So you need to be a part of that celebration.

I’m not saying you don’t drink…I would never say that! But what I am saying is put yourself in the best position to handle your booze fellas, book your stag a few weeks out. That gives you plenty of time to recover. If you have out of town pals coming in, set up a pub night a few days (if possible)before the wedding to hoist pints with them. Don’t do it the night before. Never do it the night before!

Drinking is a slippery slope, you feel good one minute, then you’re all over the floor the next. You need to be on your feet, shaking hands, taking pictures and being a great guy, you need to be on your “A” game. It’s just one day, you can do it. Be cool!

You got questions? I got your answers! Feel free to drop me a line if you want to, I’m here to help you guys. My email is simon@gutsygroom.com and you have access to me. So I suggest you use that. I can also hook you guys up with the best wedding planner in the biz…you need a great planner, I got one, I also come in the package so all your questions during the planning process you may have…I’ll be there to help you out. You can check out our work at www.fireflyoccasions.com and book your free consultation by emailing us at info@fireflyoccasions.com. That is all for this time boys…

She&He Friend: 5 Questions Not to Avoid, Before Tying the Knot

Posted April 27, 2010 in Advice, Brides, Couples. See View Comments.

By Jessifirefly, Pop Culture Expert at Firefly Occasions

As many of you already know, the final season of The Hills premieres tonight! It’s a guilty pleasure… we know you’ll be watching it, not admitting it of course. Previews for the episodes were quite dramatic to say the least. Brody and Kristin breakup, Audrina has a new boyfriend and of course, Heidi and Spencer continue their train wreck! Preview clips show Spencer yelling at Heidi’s family, Heidi crying (or trying to with her new plastic surgery) and Spencer slamming doors! This made me wonder… did they not see it coming? Did they not talk about their key morals and values before getting married? As we saw in the past episodes, Heidi wanted kids and Spencer did not, this was discovered AFTER they were married.

Many pre-marriage topics seem like no brainers. However, just because YOU are sure of what you want, doesn’t mean you have necessarily discussed it out loud with your fiancé, and most importantly, agreed on it. So before you get married there are a few questions you should ask your fiancé or even yourself to avoid a Spidey disaster! If you can be on the same page about the most important base issues and morals that you have, there’s no doubt that you’ll have an amazing marriage and a long lasting happy relationship where you can work through all of your little disagreements.

1.) Do you want kids and how will your raise them? Reality TV reminds us, this is a very important question. Ask your fiancé specifically what he or she wants. There’s a big difference between having one child and having four. This will also lead to the question to who will raise them? Are you prepared to stay at home and take care of them? If not, would you be comfortable with your husband watching them or leaving them at a daycare while you work?

2.) Where do we stand financially? Where you stand financially may be ever changing. That’s why this is such an important question. You may be ok with where you stand now. But what if things changed? Are you ok with having less money than you currently have? If not, what will you do to ensure that it doesn’t happen? The greatly feared, yet uncommonly asked question regarding the pre-nup should also be discussed. It’s uncomfortable but now’s the time to get it out of the way. Also consider what the circumstances would be of you or your fiancé staying at home and if you would both be ok with that.

3.) If one of you got a career opportunity elsewhere, would you move? Maybe you are happily nestled in a beautiful home right now with tons of friends and family nearby or perhaps you are adventurous travelers who thrive on new and exciting places to live. Either way, if the opportunity to move ever came up you need to talk about if and when you would be willing to change your living location.

4.) What’s your definition of being successful? Success means different things to different people. It could mean driving a fabulous car, having a steady job and a beautiful home. It could also mean, being healthy, having children and getting lots of time off. Make sure you know what your definition is as well as your fiancés’.

5.) Why are we getting married? This is similar to one of those job interview questions that may have you stumbling at first. For example: What are your best attributes? It’s not that you don’t have any. It’s just hard to answer questions like this about yourself sometimes. Jot down a list of some specific reasons why you are getting married. This should make you feel confident and happy about your future marriage and future decisions together.

She&He Friend: Top 10 Eco Wedding Tips to Say an Earth Friendly ‘I Do’

Posted April 22, 2010 in Advice, Brides, Trends, Weddings, Wedding Planning, Weddings. See View Comments.

With the average wedding producing 400 pounds of garbage and 63 tons of Co2, it’s not surprising that we are seeing more and more couples looking to plan a greener wedding. Here are 10 ‘eco-chic’ wedding tips from our friends at SmartBride Boutique.

  1. The Planning
    Eco-Inspiration. Tired of ripping out pages in magazines and bookmarking a zillion different wedding websites as you look for wedding inspiration? Check out www.TheBridalBoard.com , an online tool that says no to scrapbooks while helping you keep track of wedding tips, trends and inspirations.
  2. The Venue
    Minimize Venue Changes. Energy experts say carbon dioxide emissions from guest travel are the single biggest environmental impact of a wedding. Reduce these emissions by planning your event at one venue to reduce the driving for guests, and check out www.terrapass.com/wedding to calculate your wedding’s carbon footprint.
  3. The Dress
    Recycle a Wedding Dress. Purchasing a previously owned wedding dress reduces the energy and fabric needed to produce a new gown and gives brides-to-be and past brides an opportunity to save about 50% on their dress while staying true to green ideals. www.SmartBrideBoutique.com encourages brides to meet in order to try on and purchase their gown or other wedding items, eliminating the need for shipping.
  4. The Invites
    Reduce Paper Use. Consider an electronic save the date and set up a wedding website that lists all the details of your big day, from accommodation and registry to the story of how you met! Plus you can even manage your RSVPs, removing the need for reply cards.
  5. The Flowers
    Think Green Flower Power. Look for seasonal flowers that are fair trade, locally and/or organically grown and free of chemical preservatives. Potted plants can be nice centerpieces as they’re inexpensive and last far beyond the day of your wedding.
  6. The Food
    Go local and seasonal. Use caterers that source local and organic foods wherever possible. This minimizes the distance food has to travel from farm to table, lowering emissions and supporting your community. Organic wines are great too!
  7. The Cake
    Organic & Oh so good! Going green with your dessert can still taste great! Get your wedding cake made with organic, fair trade, or even vegan ingredients.
  8. The Décor
    Soy Good. Try to find a venue that already fits with your theme. This reduces the amount of items (and dollars) used to create your atmosphere. Then, add a few soy candles to the mix. They burn longer, are toxin free and biodegradable, provide natural mood lighting at a minimal expense. Voila!
  9. The Favours
    Offer green party favours. Replace traditional wedding favours with tree seedlings, flower seeds or bulbs. Send guests home with green treats such as fair trade chocolate, coffee or soaps. Better yet? Consider getting rid of physical favours entirely and set aside money to cover the carbon footprint of your wedding, or make a donation to a green charity on behalf of guests.
  10. The Rings
    Use recycled bling. Infuse your rings with love by getting family and friends to recycle their unwanted gold to make wedding rings for you and your hubby. Check out sites like www.greenkarat.com.

Bonus Tip: The Honeymoon
Go eco! Eco-tourism is a blossoming industry. Why not spend your honeymoon at a romantic eco-friendly resort, hotel or spa? This way you get to show your love for your new spouse and the planet.

About SmartBride Boutique:
SmartBrideBoutique.com is a premium wedding classifieds website, helping today’s savvy brides create the wedding day of their dreams on a realistic budget without sacrificing designer names, fabulous style or the environment. Past and present brides connect online to buy, sell and save on everything wedding. Smart Brides can have their cake and eat it too!

He Says: How To Handle THAT Guy At Your Wedding

Posted April 19, 2010 in Advice, Grooms, Reception. See View Comments.

By Simon Daykin

Throughout the history of weddings there has always been that one guy…the guy who sets up camp at the bar and then does really stupid stuff. He thinks it’s hilarious, but it’s really not. He may steal the mic, try to heckle the speech makers or get too “friendly” with the female guests, bridesmaids or hotel staff. It’s usually a touchy subject on how to handle this type of a fellow so I thought I’d impart some insight to the issue. No, it doesn’t involve large men, big sticks and bruises. But it needs to be addressed and I’m gonna address it! Rule number one…the Groom is NEVER involved, and a wise man once said…”Be nice…until it’s time not to be nice.”

A Planner Can Do More Than Plan

I can’t tell you how many people I have been asked to “cut off” at the bar! I don’t like doing it, but sometimes it needs to be done. Also, most wedding planners don’t come with a guy on staff. Luckily, www.fireflyoccasions.com usually does. If you find yourself having to deal with THAT guy at your wedding, you (as the Groom) never get involved! Your first plan of attack is to go to your planner, let them know what is going on and have them deal with it. This way, you don’t get dragged into the problem, especially if it’s a family member or close friend. This way the planner is the bad guy and your family Christmas dinner will be free of “hey, remember when you cut me off at your wedding…you little wanker” comments. Planners know how to deal with these issues and to be honest, it’s your day, you need to enjoy it and this will not be fun for you in any way shape or form.


You’re Paying Them, So Use Them

The hotel staff is there to help you! So if you don’t have a planner (shame on you) head over to the nearest hotel staff and let them know the deal. It can be the server at your table or you can ask the server to send over the banquet manager. Fill them in on the details and tell them what you want to be done. Don’t leave any room for error. You can ask them to “keep an eye” on the person, or just cut them off. If they are going to cut them off, I suggest having a couple (depending on the size of the guest) of staff at the bar when the barkeep tells the guest the sad, sad news. Things may get heated, but the staff will know what to do. If the guests comes to you after the fact. Tell your guests that the hotel has rules and they were just following them. Again, this shifts any blame AWAY from you and all is well with the world.

When All Else Fails, Call In The Groomsmen

This one can be a bit dodgy so play it by ear and know that I say this as a last resort. Usually coz the groomsmen have also been drinking and may know this guy so it can be tough. But in tough times, you need tough men. You can still have the barkeep cut the guest off, but send the groomsmen over to help escort that guest out of the area. Make sure they get up to their room and let the staff and groomsmen know to keep an eye out for them should they return. If they do see that guest again, head over to the hotel staff, don’t let the groomsmen handle it, unless you trust them! Tell them to be nice…the last thing you need is a “scene” at your wedding. I heard of a wedding were Granny got tasered…seriously, true story!!! And that is not what you want.

Simon’s Gutsy Groom Advice

Everyone loves the sweet nectar, and weddings seem to be a free for all when it comes to drinking, that one event when you can go balls to the wall. Well, not so! Guests need to be respectful of you and your Bride. Sure, get wasted and have a nap at a table if you need to, but don’t go overboard and make an ass of yourself. They are still a guest and should behave like this is your home.

Whoever is dealing with this issue needs to know that violence is NOT an option. Even if the guest takes a swing, be nice!!! Bring enough back up that they won’t even consider getting all UFC. Again, be nice, calmly explain that the hotel has decided to stop serving them, they can stay but they will have to stop drinking. I have done weddings with private security, regular security and I have been the security at a few and always, always we have been nice and calm. If you can, have your guys explain to them why they are being removed while they walk them to the door, then close the door!

So back to rule numero uno…as a Groom, NEVER, EVER get involved. I mean NEVER!!! Take care of it, yes, but never address the guest in person. This is your day and you don’t need that shit. You have people there that can take care of it for you. Dance with your Bride, talk to your friends and have someone else deal with THAT guy.

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She Says: Put Some Spring Into Your Wedding

Posted April 19, 2010 in Advice, Brides, Reception. See View Comments.

by Ciara Daykin

Springtime is a fabulous time to host a wedding. The air is fresh and everything is new. It’s a great time for pictures and a wonderful time for love.

But if you’re having a spring wedding how will you add some spring flair to your plans? Here are 5 simple ways to add springtime to your nuptials:

1.)Think Lemon- Lemon meringue pie for dessert, lemon sorbet, lemon colored tulips, a lemon drop signature drink martini or bright lemon cocktail napkins. Mimosa was the color for 2009 but we’re just now starting to see if more and more in weddings. You have so many opportunities to make your wedding feel bright and fresh with a burst of lemon! (Photo courtesy of MarthaStewart.com)

2.)Get Outside- Nothing says that you have to have your reception inside. At least not the entire time. When looking for a venue see if there is an outdoor patio space that could be used, or an outdoor fire pit. It’s a great time to be outdoors even though the air is still a little chilly. It’s perfect for getting cozy! Give your female guests a bright colored pashmina to keep them warm.

3.)Spotlight the Flowergirls and Ringbearers- So many weddings these days say no children, but springtime is a perfect time to involved the little ones in your big day. We especially love when flower girls are dressed up as little fairies or little ringbearers are outfitted in khaki and tweed (just like those adorable Ralph Lauren print ads you see in Martha Stewart Living). (Photo courtesy of Ralph Lauren)

4.)Steer Clear of Severe Hair- Spring calls for a more fun and flirty hairstyle. Try big curls or long waves, even half up half down. Headbands with a big flower ooze springtime glamour. I love when brides have sparkle hairspray in their hair as well as it looks so magical.

5.)Get Inspired By Nature- Bring the outdoors inside, use brown linens to ground the room like soil then have bright colors popping from the centerpieces and the cake. Use tree branches in a vase with sparse flowers to represent the new blooms occurring outside. Try using grasses and greens for centerpieces instead of full flowers. Bulbs just beginning to sprout can make fun centerpieces and fantastic take home gifts as well.

April Flowers Bring May Showers

Don’t ignore the possibility of those spring showers. Be prepared with fun umbrellas for yourself and your bridal party, perhaps even your guests. This is one of my favorite places to get umbrellas that are unique and different (just like you!). Click here to visit Bella Umbrella. (Photo courtesy of Bella Umbrella)

Ciara’s Bridal Advice

Spring is such a lovely time to get married. It’s always important that no matter when you’re getting married you take into account the season. Your wedding should slightly reflect the season even if it is not a dominant theme in your wedding. The season will definitely be a determining factor for your attire and where you’ll be able to take pictures.

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Ciara Daykin is the CEO of Firefly Occasions, Inc. a wedding and event planning company with offices in Calgary, Alberta Canada and Beverly Hills, California, USA. Ciara’s popular bi-weekly ezine newsletter is read by over 10,000 brides. Ciara is a frequent speaker at wedding industry functions and coaches other wedding planners across North America.

Ciara provides each bride she works with the haute couture wedding experience. Her planning website can be found at http://www.fireflyoccasions.com/ where you can sign up for her free report, “10 Tips to Take Your Wedding from Cookie Cutter to Couture.” She and her husband, Simon Daykin, are a husband and wife planning team and document their adventures on their popular blog http://sheandheplanweddings.com/.

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